Tuesday, June 23, 2009

why our kids don't come first

Last night I watched what just might have been the most depressing hour of television I have ever seen. For those of you who have not stood in line at the grocery store lately, Jon and Kate Gosselin, high-profile parents of twins and sextuplets, are getting a divorce. The announcement came during last night's episode of their reality TV show, Jon and Kate Plus 8, bizarrely sandwiched between clips of the kids' new playhouses and their Mother's Day brunch.

Ever since the beginning of their marital troubles, both Jon and Kate keep repeating the same inane mantra to anyone who will listen: Our kids come first. All we care about is our kids. We'll do anything for our kids. Kids, kids, kids, blah, blah, blah. And this, dear friends, is exactly why they are in their present situation: because they put their kids first. Above their relationships with God. Above their marriage. They made their bed, and now they have to sleep in it... separately, of course.

Let's listen carefully to Jon and Kate. What do we really want to give our kids? What are the most important things we have to offer them? New playhouses? Seriously?! How about lives that model the grace and love of Jesus lived out in healthy relationships? You don't have to be a child psychologist to know which one has a more lasting impact on a child's well-being. Here's praying these two well-intentioned but misdirected yahoos pull their heads out of the sand and take a good hard look at where "putting their kids first" has gotten their family.


Rachel Ann said...

AMEN, SISTAH-FRIEND! Exactly what I was thinking as I watched it last night. And if they were really concerned about their kids, they would work on their marriage. So sad.

Sabrina said...

I was thinking they needed to pull their heads out of something else...
Agreed...Collin and I have always put our relationship first. Not a popular theory these days. A lot of people think we're weird for saying that. We will be married 12 years in a month. Works for us! And in turn, for the kids. :)

Deborah said...

I think they meant to say "We put kids [on TV] first".

Things just aren't going to go well if you put your kids (on or off TV) first. You've got to put God first. He has to be the centre, not children or anything else. I mean really, he's the super glue that holds a family together!